If you’re trying to conceive, you know that the timing of when to baby dance can feel like a lot of pressure. And more often than not, when we’re trying to get the timing just right, we often end up scheduling sex, which makes the whole experience feel like one big chore.
From one woman who navigated this time to another, there will be an element of “scheduling.” Especially when you know when you’re most fertile, it’s hard NOT to schedule it. After all, you don’t want to miss the golden opportunity. But let’s talk about navigating your fertile window and how you can create intimacy when TTC.
Communication is Key
Communication is key… yeah yeah, we’ve heard it all before… but trust me when I say, communication is crucial to strengthening your relationship while trying to conceive! Have a real talk with each other and be realistic about how this process could be from the outset. If you’re both on the same page with open communication from the start, it can make it easier to talk about things as they come up.
Being realistic about the time it can take to get pregnant is an important first step. In Australia, the average time for a healthy couple to conceive is generally within 6 to 12 months. So making sure to have this time frame in mind, can help with setting realistic expectations early.
This statistic of course, doesn’t take into account couples who improve their time to pregnancy with the added advantage of charting their cycles … hint hint*
If you’re already some way into your TTC journey, and communication isn’t great—don’t worry. Set an intention to tackle this point and don’t put off having a conversation about this. Make a plan. Often, when communication isn’t in place, couples have harder conversations around feeling sexually dissatisfied because expectations weren’t set from the outset. Make a plan to check back in with each other at intervals to keep the communication active.
Learn Your Partner’s Love Language
Another important aspect of maintaining intimacy is learning your partner’s love language. Intimacy doesn’t have to start in the bedroom. Find out what your partner’s love language is and support this outside the bedroom. Building a strong relationship by fulfilling each other’s wants and needs helps you navigate the ups and downs of trying to conceive and naturally moves intimacy into the bedroom.
Understanding Your Fertile Window
Let’s put it into perspective—your fertile window isn’t just one day, it’s almost a week! So, don’t stress about hitting that exact ovulation day. Often, when women put so much pressure on that one day, life gets in the way and they may miss it entirely, adding more pressure.
Understanding cervical mucus is key here. Shift your focus from ovulation to cervical mucus. Remember that fertile cervical mucus can keep sperm alive for up to 5 days. So long as you’re having sex when you see good quality cervical mucus and in the lead-up to ovulation, this can often be enough.
I have a whole blog here to help you understand your cervical mucus observations 👉🏽 Cervical Mucus: The Secret to Knowing if You’re Fertile
Focus on Connection
Instead of scheduling sex, focus on connecting with your partner. Make it about enjoying each other, not just making a baby. Try spicing things up with small changes. We tend to fall into patterns with our partners. Even one small change in your routine can make a big difference.
Use Helpful Tools
Using tools like Tempdrop can give you a clear view of your cycle. This helps you understand your fertile window better and keeps things fun and informative.
Check out Tempdrop here and use code BODYBLUPRINT at checkout to get 12% off your purchase.
Celebrate What’s Working
Remember, open communication with your partner is key. Celebrate what’s working in your relationship. It’s easy to get influenced by external pressures. Instead of focusing on what’s not happening, shift your mindset to the positives. Let’s make this journey enjoyable. Embrace the love, enjoy the process, and keep things stress-free.
Wishing you balanced hormones & baby dust
Helpful resources
Download my FREE Preconception guide here 👉 Download the Guide
Join my exclusive TTC Community here 👉 Join the community
Book a free 30-minute Fertility Chat here 👉 Book a free chat
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